Abstract
Selabar is the second process after the tradition of 'kidnapping' in a series of the merariq (marriage) cultures in Lombok.This tradition is the process of informing the bride's family that someone has decided to marry her.This process initializes a range of marriage rituals among the traditional Sasak tribe until these two people are traditionally acknowledged as a new family.This research, designed to apply an ethnographic approach, is aimed at analyzing politeness strategies and pedagogical values of the Selabar procession among the Sasak community.Data were collected using field notes, direct observation of the Selabar procession, and interviews with Sasak community leaders and analyzed using Brown and Levinson's politeness model and the politeness strategy.The findings showed that both families in the Selabar ritual used the negative politeness strategy and positive politeness strategy.Meanwhile, the educational values in this ritual included innate value and acquired value.Innate values were honesty, forgiveness, thankfulness, and responsibility while the acquired value was communication values.The value of honesty was honesty appearing when a delegate from the groom's side informed the bride's family about the kidnapping.The value of forgiveness was seen when the bride's family forgave the groom's family about the kidnapping.The value of thankfulness was proved when the Sasak community leader (bride's side) thanked the Sasak community leader (groom's side).The value of responsibility was the actions and responsibilities of the two families to immediately hold a wedding.Meanwhile, the acquired value was the communication value.It was evident in the language used by the party involved during the communication or interaction.Politeness strategy and Pedagogical values of selabar were manifest during conversations between the representatives of the prospective groom's and the bride's family.